Shaping Life

Yes, always when we think a choice we make, another thinking limit us and tell us to be satisfied with the ultimate choice we can ever make.

We always wish to get rid of that thinking, but somehow its out of our capabilities, probably govern by some different laws than what we think. And when keep on thinking on this (every choice) and see the consiquences continuesly. We find one thing, Its all conserved, i.e. there is some rule governing all these choices. Neither of us can know what algorithm it follows to limit the fruits but what is certain is…

Choices Cost

Always, we make a choice it is its cost that limit us or tell us to get satisfied with what we get proportional to what we can pay for.

Have you ever wish to travel in a business class reservation rather than in an economic class airbooking?

Probebly YES!.

But we still prevent our wish and limit to economic class prevented by the high cost of business class seat booking.

Moreover, most of the time, we can only hope for the cost, i.e. even after paying the cost its not always certain that we fullfill our choice. Thus there is again something that governs it. Same, we dont know what it is but it is certain…

Cost depend on choices next to the chooser

Yes, every chooser doesnt pay same cost for same choice.

Have you ever had a feeling like “Why! Oh Why, is this happening only to me”, or lets say, What happens when you are standing in a quiue and the booking counter is closed just as you reach, well other counters are still operative.

There is something that has to govern it, and infact, if there is something, its so smart that it exclusively defines cost-choice mapping for each individual, what is at worst case termed as “Inevitability”.

If this is what most of us has experienced, than truely speaking we certainly live in a dream world, a world where only hopes governs every happenings, although we smartly give some logic to define it, but ultimatly we still have only hopes for that logic.

So, now is there any solution to this?

There is, but as SOLUTION would be our choice now, it costs us. And the cost is…

“SATISFACTION”

Self-Satisfaction is a thing that would never let us bring discomfort or sorrow, but it costs us some self-denial, that is it. If you have a feeling as said about “Why does it happen only to me” you can just get self-convinced that it was only an inevitability and there is no gain regerting for it afterwards. Infact, convincing that ”the cost I spent was sufficient to bring only THIS to me, may be it can bring more to someone other.”, this is what is known as a feeling of satisfaction, which just make all cost worth for the resluts and no more regret.

These entities are somehow internally, proportional, we have to derieve some equation…

Cost α Choice/Satisfaction

(Cost is directly proportional to Choice and inversly proportional to Satisfaction)

If we make an equation

Cost = k.Choice/Satisfaction (where ‘k’ is proportionality constant)

then ‘k’ is what ‘Self-Convincibility’

Thus

Self-Convincibility (k) = Satisfaction × (Cost / Choice)

Here is how we can calculate howmuch Self-Convincibility is required for a choice. Or it can be defined as…

<Self-Convincibility> is the <satisfaction> required <cost> per <choice> times.

So if there is a lot-of-satiscation, Self-Convincibility is Infinite.

And if there is no-satiscation, Self-Convincibility is Zero.

It happens vice-versa for the same values for the Choice.

If there is no-choice, Self-Convincibility is Infinite.

And if there is lots of choices, Self-Convincibility is Zero.

What happens with these values of Self-Convincibility.

If Self-Convincibility is Infinite. He will be convinced with everything. Thus, there is nothing that can cause a death to it.

And if Self-Convincibility is Zero, there is nothing that can make him feel comfortable to live and will tend him end itself hence, to commit suicide.

It is because of a non-zero finite value of Self-Convincibility that we live and time goes.

Also Infinite value for Self-Convincibility is something governed by NATURE, we cant change it, but dont let a situation arise that the value of Self-Convincibility becomes ZERO. That can save a LIFE, Try to make him satisfied instead.

Well, what i first need from you is to have faith in me, coz to know this level of reality, evidences are never possible, one have to have faith and feel its evidences himself and also evidences of these things are only emotions and rest is the regular actions. Thus, No one can be told what it is, you have to see it for yourself.

It’s fine to begin the Race now,

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LAP 1:

Do you believe in FATE?

Is it?

1. NO, because you dont like the idea that you are controlled by any external force and you are not in your control.
2. MAY BE YES, because you percieve somethings that are not in your control and seem to be predefined like DEATH.

before relaying on believing it or not, it is needed to know what is FATE?

The answer is, it is a probability of any happening (aim) which is result of your good and bad deeds. However, the right for when on which aim to follow which probability is solely reserved by the Almighty.

Thus, generally FATE is what that decides the results of our actions. Its like a log of our deeds, thoughts etc whatever we do.

:::finish line:::

FATE is the LOG of one’s Actions

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LAP 2:

Then why is it that sometimes we feel that we control FATE and vice-versa?

Actually, there is a RULE working on it.

If any happening aims at the temporary material objects of these nature, it has to follow FATE and if the aim is above the cosmos or nature i.e. towards GOD, betterment of mankind. the probability to achieve it follows always 1.

This RULE is termed as JUSTICE.

Obeviously, the result of this Rule or Justice is either FATE or 1.

And that RESULT is termed SUCCESS.

:::finish line:::

SUCCESS cannot be more existance than its AIM

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LAP 3:

What is Responsibility?

Any action ethically appealing to be performed to you according to your Place, Time, Company, etc is simply your Responsibility.

Thus Responsiblility of an Assassin is Assassination and similarly of a civilian is to serve society.

THE CARSH: Why is that results of both are not same if they follow their respective responsibilities.

The answer is simple, the AIM of the former is material and the later is leading to betterment of mankind. Thus, its not that Responsibility leads you to the actual/good result, its certainly Aim.

:::finish line:::

Responsibility, Justice and Success depends only on AIM.

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LAP 4:

What is Bravery?

is it? doing something that others can’t?

May be but its only a fact that Bravery is Rare. Actually, Bravery is to overcome all the hurdles coming in the way to the Aim and achieve it.

 THE STEEP TURNS:

there are 2 things probably that stops or resist the bravery.

1. Fate
2. Ignorance or Shun-ness.

Now, its clear that Fate comes only when the AIM points to something that is in this material cosmos. Thus there’s no certainity of success for these case. And if the AIM is over cosmos then Bravery is in adhering to every actions that can be taken to achieve the AIM. But preciousness of bravery is that 1 of 1000s hardly believe in the AIM above cosmos. 1 of such 1000s really sets such an AIM, and 99% of such are ignorant and ONLY 1% of that is really BRAVE enough to achieve it.

:::finish line:::

Ignoring an over-material AIM is insane, persistance is bravery

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Final Lap:

How persist?

Gear up your speed of realizing the material-nature to be a bondage for you. Dont wait for anything that you wish to enjoy. Start believing that you can do. Start chanting that you are brave enough to persist. And one day probably you will know that you were brave far more than you knew initially.

The only mantra to persist is to persist.

Need answer to How? when you are ready you wont have to.

Tough to believe… begin the RACE and see what happens at the Final Lap for yourself 

:::finish line:::

Its AIM that control you after you have set one.

All I wrote here is my experience, i believe that there can be exceptions but not certainly anything in these can be proven wrong totally.

Lets see this one….

Shawn is a middle class guy studying Architecture in a college at NJ. He was in his final year and his parents passed away in a car accident. Now that, he has nothing with him other than his knowledge and talents. Anyway, he continued his study and he was selected in a company for his internship.

Shawn put all his effort to serve this company. Seeing his talents and quality of work at his stage, company thought to adopt Shawn and train him. They spent lot of money to train him. He also utilized everything that he got from his company.

 And now Shawn is a genious. Anyone who know him has one thing in mind… ARCHITECTURE and SHAWN are synonyms. yeah its all because of this GOD FATHER.

The GOD FATHER now thought to send Shawn to a REPUTED WORLD CLASS company in CANADA for more expirience in his work and grow global professionally. He went to CANADA and found this guy RONALD.

Shawn and Ronald lives with a group of people at a payed guesthouse near the company in CANADA. Shawn is a professional architect (Rank One, a Master, as we know) and Ronald, an intern in same company. But somehow feelings of both matched most. They are entering into the corporate world where both of them needs to learn some rules of self, society and life.

Both have realized that the most important thing before learning those rules was adhering to an AIM, which would in-turn teach them said rules. So they have started setting a GOAL. Shawn is a bit more stable/experienced than Ronald at conceptual learning. This day, they sat to-gather and started Setting GOAL and realized this thing.

Its AIM that determines Responsibilities, Justice and Success

Now they have set a Goal no matter how general it was, but they know they have set it seeing their abilities, their interests & thier surroundings and switching to some other goal could be vulnerable for them to lead a good life. Also, always

Purity of aim is inversly proportional to time

i.e. as time passes aim gets thinner and thinner. Good that they knew this at the time of setting it, thus reducing the chances to lose the Aim. Their aim was to serve the new company as honestly as their company-owner would. Aim really seems general but its tough to maintain and specially when u r gauged by bucks.

After this events they were more closer to each other. They use to observe moves of each-other daily and sit to-gather at night writing their daily diary. Weather they are at work or at lunch… observation was their instantaneous task.

When Shawn is confused Ronald helps him and vice-versa. They were more than friends.

Months passed happily and productive.

Here comes a turning point,

Shawn was needed in the company he worked before, which was also creditable to put Shawn at this position in corporate world (the unforgatable service). But it was only if he produces his blue-prints to them (an ethical crime).

Shawn was now so confused coz he didn’t want to lose a good opportunity to be pay back his old company. He told this to Ronald, but to his surprise Ronald was calm like a blue sea (thinking and thinking). Shawn was taken aback thinking “Why isnt he speaking, why did he leave me when i wanted him the most?”. This was the QUESTION he wanted the answer for, now.

He asked him again, NO ANSWER.

He pleaded him, DEAD AIR.

Now, he begun to cry, but he could find only SILENCE.

He couldn’t sleep that night (though he was working for last 3 complete night), didn’t go to work, couldn’t take his lunch, couldn’t take noon-nap. He found Ronald happily talking to his colleague and other friends in the guesthouse but socially ignored him. He tried to talk a word but Ronald avoided him before he could speak anything.

He went to church and prayed for that rest of the day. Back at night, though Ronald served him the food, it didnt taste. He cried again, it was first time, they were writing their diary separately.

The Next day, Shwan passed his whole day writing his diary and wetting it with his priceless tears, Ronald saw it but seemed hard-hearted, no feelings. Some of his diary lines read…

December 21, 2006

Why??? Oh why are you haunting me?? I want the answer to this why.

:(( i m helpless. I know you cannot take a step against my life… i know its all about my good… but i dont know what good. My mind is all haunted, its tough to pass a moment, for i dont know the reason.

I know it is hard for you too but you have a reason, which i dont know. I m falling in gravity without a parachute.

Finding the missing curve of your smile and that soft lines of words. I couldnt even know when will the day come for what i m waiting. Oh my life, for now, please tell me the reason. You are my life, i cant leave u and live.

Can anyone explain this:

i remember a thing every now and then that i dont know

tell me. talk to me. please… please…. please…. for god’s sake

Now, he remembers just him at work, no doubt, work has no affect of this, it goes with same talents and zeal. But his moral life is like suspended.

Days passed in BLACK & WHITE, finding COLOURS. Less eating, more crying. Less working, more thinking. Seeming like a body without soul. It was about a month he dint enjoy a single word from RONALD.

Its 4th Feb 2007 today, after all the day gradually arrived, he has collected all the blue prints and going to the old company. He wanted a word, a piece of advice from his Life, but same dead air. He packed his luggage and flew back to NJ.

Now he was before the chairman (the so called GOD FATHER) again with feelings of gratitude, He tested Shawn and found him above estimation, he learnt many things, he was placed at a good rank in the company back. He was appointed. But he was missing RONALD.

He now called up Ronald, BUT…

But call was answered with Silence, call pulses were rising but no reply. Shawn is crying, still no reply. Shawn couldn’t wait for more time, he weep and put down the phone.

The very day, he was called in a sealed room where a person asked him for those blue-prints. His mind was still in Ronald’s silence and thought giving those blue prints was against their aim and this would make Ronald more harder, which he could never take up for life and boldly refused to give them, resigned the offer at old company.

He flew to Canada in couple of days and to his surprise, he was welcomed home with a pleasant smile. And gratitude ran from Shawn’s eyes. Now, Shawn was with a list of questions, but before he could ask one, he was served with a good, delicious dish.

And…Now

And Shawn asked WHY? now it was Ronald’s turn to cry. Tears answered everything.

….Story Ends

RELAX, close your eyes, THINK 

Questions? Queries? of course.

Ronald cleverly realised on Dec 21 that it was tough for Shawn to retain the AIM during his meet to Old Company then to remember a silent-self. And thats the reason Ronald created a suituation so that he remembers his aim at the right time. Reason was not necessory, but it worked the best. It can be an extra-ordinary art, may be the art of perseverance.

Ronald also cried for days, he too ate tasteless food. But see he needn’t confirm “did u resign the offer?” and happily welcomed him with a smile, he was waiting for a long.

Do u feel like Shawn was ungrateful to his OLD Company? remember “its aim that determines Responsibilities, Justice and Success”. Here his aim was far more greater than his so-called responsibility, being Honest was wiser than doing a Crime as Responsibility.

If it was to name THIS among Friendship/Love/Other:……….? i’d better choosed Other and write

“The Undefined Relation”

Another most important aspect is to KNOW… ‘what ur innerself (u) really say, think, want’.

Because always u do a thing there are 2 parts… UR part and UR MIND (U+MIND)… and MIND is u can say trained in opposing U, (kinda).

Like when u try want to work and u put it on tomorrow… ur MIND overrides U. it makes u do what u dont want to… by putting a fine acceptable reason in front of u, The thing u realize mostly after it has affected u with a bad result. Of course all of us has experienced it.

Lets listen a story

This guy is doing his general level JOB at Serene,inc. near his place. And the best thing with him is he has a good team of professional friends who are certainly ready to give him a cool JOB which he would ever expect (wish) in thier team “Utopia Professionals”. Our guy knows that he is surely going to get at Utopia, but he doesnt know when they will offer it to him…

But this made his mind get a ROOM to get over his control. He started becoming careless for the current job… he isnt going to work anymore… well plans often to go but somehow produces some excuses to have a leave.

His colleagues asks him why wasnt he comming.. but our guy is now proficient in producing answers. He always get an appeal from his innerself but his mind overrides it, as usual. And he literally STOPPED going to Serene, inc. he dint go for about 3 of 4 months in a term.

BUT this day was vulnarable and very hectic for him. It was the first day of the LAST MONTH of his term at Serene, where he would be fired forever if he dont have a valid reason (HE THOUGHT SO, but try was no harm, they werent actually like our guy thought).

So he thought he wasnt going to get his pay and also work instead a real good insult would welcome him if he start going.

And now situation is much critical… he didnt get any responses or calls from his Utopia yet. He is worried for his life. He dont have much money to do with his regular needs and nor could find a different good job temporary coz he cant put Serene’s File towards them (they only job he did).

Everything till now was running in his mind at 2:30 mid-night, he isnt getting sleep. But…

Starting is magic formula to End

If he start going to Serene, inc. he could have a hope of work with them anymore even one of his colleague is ready for a help to talk to his Boss. But he is still scared that he dont have any valid reason. And regerting… thinking thinking what to do. He knew UTOPIA knows him well, so untill he is HONEST to the present work… they wont call him.

He realized that everythig that happen was his carelessness or laziness which happened due to his loose control on mind.. and thought of get a CONTROL on it.

see WHAT OUR HERO DID.

He boldly went to UTOPIA and asked them that he is ready to JOIN the JOB (Remember “WHEN” was not in his hands, he knew though). The head of the group is so cleaver and he knew what is happening with him and why he is so eager to JOIN. Thus he cleaverly answered “We DONT presently REQUIRE anyone, you please continue the Serene Inc. and we will certainly call u before this year of ur JOB at Serene Inc.” OUR guy was knowing this answer, for he knew them very well (They wont have let him do anything he wanted, anytime).

Now a question arises to us….”Why did he ask it if he was knowing the answer?” RIGHT? Yeah

He used a GREAT Art.

He plotted his MIND… Se how

By now he knows that Utopia will not take him for the JOB presently, for what he left serene and there is no ROOM for him other than going to Serene, inc… Cleverly, STOPPED mind to MAKE excueses any more.

He will have to resume Serene, Inc for sure or else he will be NOWHERE. He will not be able to answer anymore to world now, he cannot say “my Utopia is going to take me and thats the reason i m not coming to Serene.”

He has cleverly filtered his instincts to “U” from (U+MIND).

This is an ART… try to plot ur mind and practicing it will make it a big useful tool to KNOW the LIFE.

plotting mind…. knowing life and shaping it

Welcome!!

Is it so difficult to know life?

Weather or not but knowing life is equally importent to living life. According to me the first step in defining anything (life too) is to know the art of defining. And developing it, is a bit practicing. The magic trick is “Start Defining every common thing that matters u”.

Well for an example what will be ur reply if i ask u to define the most common things like “COLOR”..

its a bit difficult to define it but if u go conceptual, u can do it. (for i did it.)

The place where i stay is somehow related to what i m writing here. My surroundings make me learn what life is, though gradually. I thought it was a good idea to put all my experiences here, and so could even track my thinking globally.

So help… get helped